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[2023] HKFC 172-EN-2023-08-23

PJM V. NPGP formerly known as GPN

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FCMC 4999/2014

[2023] HKFC 172

IN THE DISTRICT COURT OF THE

HONG KONG SPECIAL ADMINISTRATIVE REGION

MATRIMONIAL CAUSES NO. 4999 OF 2014

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BETWEEN

 PJMPetitioner

and

 NPGP
formerly known as GPN
Respondent

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Coram:Her Honour Judge Thelma Kwan in Chambers (not open to public)
Dates of Hearing:3-5 July 2023
Opening Submissions from Petitioner and Respondent:28 June 2023
Closing Submissions from Petitioner and Respondent:20 July 2023
Date of Judgment:23 August 2023

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J U D G M E N T
( Relocation )

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This Application

1.  On 21 June 2021, Petitioner Husband (“H”) applied to permanently remove two children of the family to Australia (“Relocation Application”).

2.  Respondent Mother (“M”) opposes the application.

3.  Due to the urgency for one of the children’s medical needs, I have decided to come to this decision expeditiously, and to grant H’s Relocation Application.

4.  Both parties appeared in person.

Parties background

5.  Parties met in 2006 and were married in November 2007 in Hong Kong. There are two children, both born in Hong Kong, namely a son T born in March 2007 (“T”), and a daughter C born in October 2010 (“C”), (together the “Children”); they are 16 and 12 respectively.

6.  H is now aged 47 and comes from New Zealand. He works as a Business Analyst and Planning Manager for a local law firm. He says he needs to work normal work hours, but has permission from his employer to work remotely.

7.  W is age 46 and a Filipino, she is employed as an IT trainer by a local law firm. She says she has worked there for 8 years and has no intention to change employment. She also states in oral evidence that she has flexible working hours so long as she completes her 7.5 hours a day, and can work from home on informing her employer.

8.  T’s situation shall be elaborated at length below, and is an important factor in the consideration of this Relocation Application. Both T and C study at an international school.

9.  F filed his petition on 22 April 2014, Decree Nisi was pronounced on 12 September 2014.

10.  By a Consent Order dated 4 December 2014, the parties have joint custody and joint care and control of the Children.

11.  From August 2015, the Children spent alternate week with the parties, with change over on Friday afterschool. Both are hands-on parents.

12.  H has remarried to his new wife (“D”). They met in 2019. She lived with H in Hong Kong from 2019-2021 but has since moved back to Australia for work and to be with her two children from her previous marriage. They registered their marriage in October 2021 in Hong Kong. D’s two children are respectively 17 and 9 years of age.

About T

13.  T was diagnosed with developmental delay with autistic features when assessed at age 3 in 2010.

14.  W has complained that H did not acknowledge T’s special needs in the past. However, even if she is right, it is clear from the Social Investigation Report (“SIR”) in 2017, that F has acknowledged and accepted T’s condition by then. Two earlier SIRs (2017 and 2018) cited T as polite and compliant, his then principal said that T was quiet and his emotions calm at school.

15.  T was referred to have a psychoeducational evaluation, a report was produced in November 2021. According to this Education Psychology Report, he was identified as experiencing ADHD, combined presentation, severe and Social (Pragmatic) Communication Disorder in 2014. He was on medication but this continued for only two years whereupon he stopped as he did not like the side effects of the medication. In 2016 in an updated assessment, T was reported as having “weaknesses in his social thinking skills, his pragmatic language skills, and his ability to regulate his emotions in a timely and expected manner”.

16.  In the said 2021 Report, he was diagnosed to suffer from ASD (Level 1, without accompanying intellectual or language impairment), also known as Asperger’s Syndrome; ADHD; Generalized Anxiety Disorder; specific learning disorder with impairments in written expression; and neurodevelopmental disorder associated with graphomotor weaknesses. Follow up recommendations include monitoring by psychiatrist and psychologist, therapy; and to consider medication to support his areas of difficulty.

17.  In January 2022, T suddenly decided not to stay with W on the week on-week off arrangement. H said that this was in part due to W not observing some boundary issues which affected T.

18.  Since then, T sees psychiatrist Dr H for his diagnosis of Autism and ADHD, and psychologist Dr N for his “anxiety issues”.

Incident in August 2022

19.  By agreement of the parties, T and C went to Australia to spend summer holidays with H and his new wife D in July 2022, this was unexpectedly extended when H contracted covid.

20.  H’s version of what happened was that in around 8 August, a series of events which took place at his Sydney home prompted H to contact T’s psychiatrist Dr H in Hong Kong, and in turn resulting in him taking T to a local hospital for assessment of his condition. On this occasion, M says that she was not aware of the “long list” of issues that T was experiencing, and only knew when she joined the call with Dr H and H on 8 August 2022.

21.  T was found to experience an acute mental health crisis, diagnosed as a “first episode psychosis” and was admitted to B Child & Adolescent Mental Health Inpatient Unit in Sydney (“B Unit”) on 11 August 2022.

22.  Thereafter, T was placed at B Unit under a court issued “Involuntary Patient Order”, for the purpose of his treatment.

23.  C returned to Hong Kong to attend school in October 2022 and stayed with W.

24.  H has per Court Order dated 2 November 2022, requested B Unit to issue a report of T’s condition. B Unit’s “Discharge Report” dated 23 February 2023 and amended 27 April 2023, was put into evidence. The Discharge Report reveals that H has reported the following symptoms T exhibited in the week preceding his admission, which include the following:

“- Spitting on things, along with abusive and repetitive speech

- Physically aggressive towards younger sister, using objects such as a tennis racquet to hit her

- Sexualized comments towards younger sister, indicating that he wanted to touch her and be intimate with her

- Verbally abusive towards father, stating he hates him, telling him to “fxxx off”

- Compulsive behaviour such as eating grass, sticks, leaves and eating the end of pens

- Standing in the middle of the room and staring at the wall, unresponsive to father

- Religious comments: speaking about God and devil being in control of his life

- Observed to be muttering to himself”

25.  The following is an excerpt from the B Unit Discharge Report:

“Initial Observations

T was observed to show signs of ongoing disinhibited behaviours on the psychiatric ward. T was spitting and urinating in common areas. T was also sexually disinhibited …. During review he was difficult to engage and often non-verbal to questioning. T reported hearing voices telling him to take off his clothes, do frequent push ups and refuse medications. T reported believing that food in the hospital was poisoned.”

26.  Doctors treating him at B Unit also opined that “Prior to this deterioration in mental state, there had been a 6-12 months history of possible prodromal symptoms.”

27.  T ended up staying in B Unit and was only discharged on 23 February 2023, he returned to Hong Kong escorted by H. Thereafter, the parties returned to the week on-week off arrangement with the Children.

Incident in April 2023

28.  After T’s return to Hong Kong, H says that there have been a number of incidents which finally led to him to contacting Dr H again in April 2023, and resulted in T’s admission to the Adolescent Psychiatric ward at QMH.

29.  Incidents from 23 February 2023 to 7 April 2023 include the following, coupled with the W’s response from her cross examination.

IncidentsW’s responses in cross examination by H
Intended suicide before a bus in Causeway BayBut he did not jump, he told me after that he got scared
Wet his pants at home and in public


In the reception area of Dr L
He wet his pants three times las week,
but less than before … he did it in public toilet
 
Yes
Threaten to poke out his eyeOn palm Sunday with the palm, I took it away
Threaten to climb out the window from W’s homeIntended to add grille, but not yet done, I make sure he is watched all the time after that
Throw things out of bathroom windowI found out when he told me, but he did not hit anyone
Crash his bicycleBut he didn’t, he mentioned he would do it, so I stopped the biking
Climb out of moving taxiHe reached out to the lever to open taxi door, I put him in the middle and hold his hands
Expose himself to WYes

30.  H’s concern over these issues was that these behaviour indicated regression of which the parties were warned when T left B Unit; but W’s reaction to this was to say that they should not expect T to return to his baseline, and that certain types of these behaviours are expected to be exhibited. H says that W did not feel that these were “bad enough” to warrant admission to a hospital, but he felt that it was the prudent thing to do to get T assessed to determine if admission is needed.

31.  During H’s cross examination of W, he reminded her the B Unit has stressed how important it is to ensure that the parties must seek hospital help right away if T shows signs of regression, as psychosis if left untreated in young patients will have a long-term negative impact.

32.  W eventually conceded (she said she had no choice) to take T for assessment at QMH in April 2023. T was admitted, H’s evidence is that T’s anti-psychotic medication was increased as a result.

T current status

33.  In his oral evidence, H says that T is now stable as he is monitored by hospital staff and taking regular medications. However, there were occasion when T was restrained to his bed. As at the date of this decision, T should still be under admission at QMH.

34.  When the SWO met with him at QMH, she reports the following in the updated SIR:

“… he disclosed his irrational belief that he felt safe living in the hospital because he would not be harmed. He indicated an ideation of self-harm behaviours that he had been considering to “poke his eye” repeatedly throughout the interview. When he was asked about C’s recent visit to the hospital, he replied that his sins could only be forgiven by “poking his eyes.”

35.  The SWO also spoke to T’s treating doctor Dr H at QMH, who told her that the ward staff has been monitoring his suicidal risk: “Dr was of the opinion that the family members or the carer(s) have to closely monitor the suicidal risk whenever he mentions it because it is hard to tell whether his frequent reports of suicidal ideation is genuine or not.”

About C

36.  C was diagnosed with a genetic condition of acromicric dysplasia which is short stature syndrome, she needs regular check-up. Her schoolwork is on track, she is cited to be a popular and engaging student who gets along with her peers and has a lot of friends.

37.  However, C she was traumatised during T’s incident last summer, while in Australia, H arranged for her to see a psychologist. On her return to Hong Kong, W reported that she has mood swings and has exhibited suicidal ideation. After following up with external psychologist support, her condition is now of low risk.

38.  She is reported as having a close bond with T, and has now settled back to the Hong Kong routine.

H’s case

39.  H’s Relocation Application in 2021 seeks to remove the Children to Sydney, Australia in or around November 2022 so he can reunite with his new wife, settle down with all the children and integrating them into one family. He wishes to offer the Children better living environment and condition, and more options in schooling and career opportunities.

40.  As part of his relocation plan, he found schools for the Children, and enrolled them. C still has a place now in the school that he chose.

41.  H has made plans with his company to work remotely from Australia. He also relied on D’s guidance in his plans, as she grew up in Sydney.

42.  After T’s incident last August, H has conducted more research and put forward more details on the care plans, special schools, and medical support available to T in Australia.

W’s Case

43.  W opposes H’s application.

44.  She said that it was her who first noticed T’s condition, and insists that H did not accept T’s diagnosis in the beginning.

45.  She wants to keep T in Hong Kong so she can take care of him and she says her extended family members can also give him emotional support. She does not feel that H can take care of T with his new family and settling down in a new country.

46.  She does not believe that H would keep her informed of T’s condition. She says that the past year’s experiences gave testament to that.

47.  However, W says that she will give consent to C leaving as this is what C wants. She also told the SWO that she does not think her relationship with C has been affected by the child’s wish for relocation. She ask that H guarantees C’s safety and give her generous access.

48.  W also says that should relocation be granted, she asks for H to pay for the children’s flights to Hong Kong, and for him to pay maintenance at US$500 per child per week when they are with her.

Reports

49.  There are three SIRs after the Relocation Application, and one International Social Investigation Report.

50.  The first relevant SIR (“1st SIR”) was prepared by one Ms L on 31 January 2022. The other two SIRs were prepared by Ms C dated 26 October 2022 and 19 June 2023 respectively (“2nd SIR” and “3rd SIR”). Both Ms L and Ms C attended court and were cross examined by the parties.

Social Welfare Reports

1st SIR

51.  It was recorded in the 1st SIR, that T indicated his wish to go study in Australia. Preferring to have choices on jobs and universities and also as he will not need to speak Cantonese. He believes schools in Australia are better, and he can decide to go to boarding school or live by himself. He believes he will be able to get a job with good salary.

52.  C also said she wanted to go to Australia, because she has an elder stepsister (D’s daughter). She believes there will be better education, a bigger home, better living environment and also closer to H’s relatives in Australia and NZ. Both Children seem to have a preference in being with H.

53.  The 1st SIR failed to draw a conclusion as H’s plan back then was fluid and was unable to provide an address for the ISIR to be conducted. Parties were urged to enter into mediation to work out the details of the relocation plan, timing and access arrangements.

54.  At this trial, W asks whether Ms L recall W telling her about T’s suicidal plan, but Ms L has no recollection of such a conversation.

2nd and 3rd SIR

55.  The 2nd SIR was conducted when T was hospitalized in Australia and both parents were dealing with the crisis.

56.  The SWO admitted that she could not comment on the relocation in full as she could not ascertain T’s views after his mental health crisis. Although she did refer to the ISIR wherein was reported T’s wish to study at the school that H has enrolled him into.

57.  This 2nd SIR is helpful in reporting about C, and how she has gotten closer to D and her children the previous summer. It also speaks of her feelings about T. I find the follow excerpt from this report to be helpful with regard to C:

“25. The children had indicated their eagerness to relocate to Australia explicitly in the investigations of the SIR dated 22.3.2022, the ISIR dated 2.9.2022 and C in the recent interview on 8.10.2022 with the Investigating Officer had restated her wish for relocation. For a child of nearly 12 years old with mature, expressive, caring and candid in character, C's views carried significant weight in the investigations. She was reluctant to live apart from her elder brother and the strong siblings support had become. an essential protective factor for their healthy development over the years. Based on C's feedback on her positive experiences in Australia, the relocation proposals from [H] including schooling, daily living arrangement, family finance and healthcare support were well grounded and feasible for C. It was clear that C's wish to relocate to Australia basing on her preference of social, environmental and educational condition, instead of being influenced by either parent.”

58.  However the 2nd SIR ends with this:

“26. However, the Investigation Officer could hardly comment on the relocation in full without studying the medical and psychological information of T from the medical team of [B Unit] at the present stage. In addition, it could be piecemeal to comment on the permanent relocation proposal on C only when the siblings had close bonding all along and that they had indicated identical preference for relocation to Australia in the past.”

59.  The 3rd SIR was very detailed and was helpful to the court. The SWO is supportive of the relocation:

“58. The Investigating Officer opined that both the mental health professionals in Australia and Hong Kong had worked with dedication for T, alongside he had established rapport with the service providers at both facilities. Thus, an apples-to-oranges comparison on the healthcare facilities of the two places would not be necessary, it was the capability of the parents to formulate a practicable and pragmatic rehabilitation plan that worth the examination. Weight should also be added on the reliability of the parent to perceive the mental health and functioning status of T, and accurately match him to appropriate services.”

60.  And she found that H has achieved this. Her findings at paragraph 68 of the 3rd SIR are extensive and repeated herein as follows:

“a. The relocation was not designed to thwart the legitimate relationship between the children and the mother. The father's return to Australia was necessitated by the fact that his wife, [D] was currently staying in Australia with her children in their home country.

b. The mother's good intentions in her opposition were considered, such as her concern for the child's adjustment to the changes or the reduction of her involvement in the child's life. Therefore, the relocation plan must ensure that the children will continue to maintain a relationship with her through a sensible and generous access plan.

c. Both parents were considered primary care givers for the children, since they were granted joint custody and shared care and control arrangements in 2014. All along, the children were close to both parents and lived in their homes on alternate weeks. The history of the child care arrangement revealed that the father had been a hands-on, involved parent. The relationship between the father and the children was harmonious all along.

d. The father reported a stable employment history, and that his current employer allowed him to work from home in Australia.

e. The father had confirmed with the Investigating Officer on 1.6.2023 interview that he would give full financial support to his children after their relocation to Australia.

f. The information in the ISIR dated 2.9.2022 supported that the quality of life of the children in Australia would be sustained at a comfortable level, considering the cost of living in Sydney.

g. The father and [D] decided to let their respective children at least complete high school in Sydney, thereby avoiding the children's state-to-state moves in Australia, which brought about the permanence of the relocation and the children's stability to live in one location.

h. In addition, the child would be entitled to a strong schooling, health care and welfare support in Australia. The father had supplemented Medicare coverage, schooling and welfare provisions by the government in Australia in his affirmations.

i. Schools options both for T and C had been identified, location and suitability for the children's academic level were studied and considered appropriate.

j. Considerations pertaining to the children's desires, as discussed in this USIR and previous reports: C consistently chose Australia, and T informed SIR and ISIR evaluators that he desired to study there. Feeling confused in a distressed mind, he has now asked the court to decide for him.

k. Timing and opportunity as a determining factor: the father had diligently formulated a judicious plan for a stable and thriving environment for the children; C had been waiting for two years for her relocation wishes to be fulfilled; T's mental health condition and his treatment needs were imminent, so it was timely and critical for him to kick start receiving the rehabilitation program in Australia. Considering that a 16-year-old in NSW, Australia, can apply for a provisional driver's license, the children would soon assume greater autonomy to move on with their life desires. Their learning and adaptation to the new environment at home and in school during their formative years were essential for their future in Australia.

l. Sydney, a major city in Australia, provides transportation convenience for the mother to stay connected with the children or for the children to return to Hong Kong to visit their friends and also their maternal family members for social and family reunions.

m. According to the father, he was willing to co-parent with the mother. He would promote the children's connection and relationship with the mother.

n. Considering the investigations of the ISIR, the previous USIR, and this USIR, which revealed the children's upbringing, cultural backgrounds, languages, psychosocial development, educational needs, medical needs and T's factors, the children's wishes, the impact of the move, and the opportunities for the mother to continue contact with the children in Australia, the father's relocation plan is considered comprehensive, reasonable and feasible.”

61.  She also says that language is a factor that is important in her consideration. Neither T nor C are not strong in Chinese, as the majority of the patients and healthcare workers at QMH speak Cantonese, T could barely communicate with his caregivers in Hong Kong; however, he is able to communicate more effectively with the medical team at B Unit in his native tongue.

62.  The SWO says she “believed that T’s care plan in the mental health institutions of Australia was predicted to be promising.” She is also convinced that “The father had done extensive liaisons with medical experts and the coordinators of the rehabilitative facilities and schools, as well as online research in both Hong Kong and Australia. He had a clear presentation on the reasons he chose Australia for A.”

63.  Ms C also said that when she spoke to T’s doctor at QMH, Dr H says that that there is no immediate plan for T to be released from hospital and awaits result of this Hearing as one of the considerations to determine what is next for T.

ISIR

64.  The ISIR dated 24 August 2022 supports the relocation.

“ISS Australia is of the view that [H]’s relocation plan is suitable and well considered and will serve the children’s best interests while still promoting T and C’s connection and relation with [W].”

65.  It also comments that D’s current home environment is suitable accommodation for the Children, that H has the financial capacity to support the children if they were living in Australia, and that H’s good physical and mental health would ensure he is able to meet the needs of the Children’s daily care.

66.  The ISIR also observes that further professional advice needs to be sought in relation to school options for T which would support his needs; and comments that the proposed choice for school for C is well resourced and will provide her well for her development and growth.

67.  The ISIR shows in depth conversation between the assessor and the Children, and the assessor is of the view that the Children will thrive in Australia.

68.  The following is a useful observation from the ISIR:

“The recent events with T and way that [H] and [D] have managed is indicative of a strong and united co-parenting relationship. [H] and [D] have been highly supportive of each other through a period of high stress, and effectively sought appropriate support to ensure T has the medical help he needs to recover. ISS Australia recognises that [H] and [D] have shown help seeking behaviours, which is positive, as there are likely to be future challenges when the family integrates. This recent event shows that [H] and [D] can effectively manage challenges relating to their children and will approach these from a child-centred approach.”

Stepmother

69.  D is Australian who works as the Asia Pacific Regional Manager of a real estate company. She gave evidence is Court and was cross examined by W. She is conscious of the challenges which the new family unit will face with regard to various adjustments.

70.  When challenged on the care for the children, she said that she is conscious to remind the Children that W is to have an important and continuous role in their lives. When cross examined by W as to why she only visited T twice at B Unit, she said that at the time of T’s psychotic episode in Australia, she has stayed at home to look after C when H made his daily trip to see T. She said she has also kept W in the loop on how T was progressing at B Unit.

71.  W also cross examined her on how to balance care of T and D’s own daughter who has been reported to have some mood issues and history of self-harm. D said her daughter no longer has any issue since she is in her full-time care; and trust that between H and herself, they can “divide and conquer” and provide support to each other to tackle the challenges together.

72.  The ISIR shows that there have been some historical issues with D’s ex-husband who has posed some alleged threats to her, the ISIR was thorough in investigating into these issues.

“ISS Australia view any perceived or real threat to children’s safety as incredibly serious. Through our discussions, [D] demonstrated insight into ensuring the safety of T and C would not be compromised as evidenced by her strong protective factor towards her own children and her proactive approach to limiting [ex-husband]’s knowledge of their whereabouts.”

73.  On cross examination by W, D reassured her that her ex-husband is unaware of her residence, and that the handover of the son’s access is at a neutral location away from her home.

Legal Principles

74.  My starting point is found in s.3 of the Guardianship of Minors Ordinance (Cap. 13). It states that the best interest of the minor is the first and paramount consideration by the Court.

75.  The applicable principles governing relocation application were based on the English Court of Appeal case of Payne v Payne [2001] Fam 473 and adopted by our Court of Appeal in SMM v TWM [2010] HKFLR 308, [2010] HKLRD 37 CA where Cheung JA summarised them at §21 of his judgment as follows:

“1) …

2) …

3) The application should be approached as follows:

(1) Is the mother’s application genuine in the sense that it is not motivated by some selfish desire to exclude the father from the child’s life? Then ask, is the mother’s application realistic, i.e. founded on practical proposals both well researched and investigated? If the application fails either of these tests, refusal will inevitably follow.

(2) If, however, the application passes these tests then there must be a careful appraisal of the father’s opposition: is it motivated by genuine concern for the future of the child’s welfare or is it driven by some ulterior motive? What would be the extent of the detriment to him and his future relationship with the child were the application granted? To what extent would that be offset by extension of the child’s relationships with the maternal family and homeland?

(3) What would be the impact on the mother, either as the single parent or as a new wife, of a refusal of her realistic proposal?

(4) The outcome of the second and third appraisals must then be brought into an overriding review of the child’s welfare as the paramount consideration, directed by the statutory checklist in so far as appropriate. (per Thorpe LJ at paragraph 40)

4) In short, the relevant factors are:

(1) The welfare of the child is always paramount.

(2) There is no presumption created by section 13(1)(b) of the English Children Act 1989 in favour of the applicant parent.

(3) The reasonable proposals of the parent with a residence order wishing to live abroad carry great weight.

(4) Consequently the proposals have to be scrutinised with care and the Court needs to be satisfied that there is a genuine motivation for the move and not the intention to bring contact between the child and the other parent to an end.

(5) The effect upon the applicant parent and the new family of the child of a refusal of leave is very important.

(6) The effect upon the child of the denial of contact with the other parent and in some cases his family is very important.

(7) The opportunity for continuing contact between the child and the parent left behind may be very significant. (per Butler-Sloss P at paragraph 85)”

76.  In the recent case of BA v BL (Child Relocation) [2019] 4 HKLRD 23 the Court of Appeal per Cheung JA reiterated and further elaborated on the approach to be taken in relocation cases:

“4.12 This led to the more recent decisions of the English Court of Appeal such as K v K where it is stressed that, in the determination of applications for permission to relocate, the welfare of the child was the paramount consideration … The three judges in K v K, Thorpe, Moore-Bick and Black LJJ were of the same view on this point.

4.13 …

4.14 … Ultimately it is one of the factors to be considered in the overall assessment whether the relocation is in the best interests of the child and the weight to be attached to this factor depends on the facts of the case. The value of Payne is that it "identifies a number of factors which will or may be relevant in a relocation case, explains their importance to the welfare of the child, and suggests helpful disciplines to ensure that the proper matters are considered in reaching a decision but it does not dictate the outcome of a case", per Black LJ at [144] in K v K. In my view Payne is not to be jettisoned. The relevant factors provide a structured framework in which the appraisal is to be made holistically.

...”

77.  I also found the following from Lady Justice Black (as she then was) in the abovementioned case of K v K [2011] EWCA Civ 793 to be of assistance:

“141. The first point that is quite clear is that, as I have said already, the principle – the only authentic principle – that runs through the entire line of relocation authorities is that the welfare of the child is the court’s paramount consideration. Everything that is considered by the court in reaching its determination is put into the balance with a view to measuring its impact on the child.”

78.  HHJ I Wong has in his recent case of JTMW v NAV FCMC 8504/2017 [2020] HKFC 244 succinctly summarized important points of principles enunciated in the case of ZJ v XWN at paragraphs 53 - 55:

“53. The Court of Appeal endorsed what Vos LJ said in Re C (A Child) (Internal Relocation) at [82] and [83],

82. I add a few words in an attempt to summarise the position that has now been reached. As counsel before us agreed, in cases concerning either external or internal relocation the only test that the court applies is the paramount principle as to the welfare of the child. The application of that test involves a holistic balancing exercise undertaken with the assistance, by analogy, of the welfare checklist, even where it is not statutorily applicable. The exercise is not a linear one. It involves balancing all the relevant factors, which may vary hugely from case to case, weighing one against the other, with the objective of determining which of the available options best meets the requirement to afford paramount consideration to the welfare of the child. It is no part of this exercise to regard a decision in favour or against any particular available option as exceptional.

83. ...

54. The Court of Appeal also dealt with the use of the “welfare checklist” in the balancing exercise. The “welfare checklist’ is only an aide-memoire. A judge is not required to mechanically list every factor to demonstrate that he has considered the same.

55. The Court of Appeal emphasized that the guidance in Payne or SMM v TWM or the welfare checklist are simply tools to assist a Family Judge in making the multifactorial assessment to reach a result which is in the best interest of the child after taking account of the potential impact on the parents: at [30].”

79.  The consideration of guiding legal principles will be incomplete without citing what has been referred to as the welfare checklist factors, which have been listed in our “Children’s Proceedings (Parental Responsibility) Bill, and has yet to be passed as law in Hong Kong (the “Welfare Checklist”). These are factors that should be taken into account when determining issues relating to children and where their best interest is to be considered:

a. the ascertainable wishes and feelings of the child concerned considered in the light of his age and understanding;

b. the child’s physical, emotional and educational needs;

c. the nature of the relationship of the child with each of the child’s parents and with other persons;

d. The likely effect on the child of any change in the child’s circumstances;

e. The child’s age, maturity sex, social and cultural background and any other characteristics which the court considers relevant;

f. The attitude to the child, and to the responsibilities of parenthood, demonstrated by each of the child’s parents;

g. Any harm which the child has suffered or is at risk of suffering;

h. Any family violence involving the child or a member of the child’s family;

i. How capable each of the child’s parents, and any other person in relation to whom the court considers the question to be relevant, is of meeting his needs;

j. (a broader formulation along the lines of) the practical difficulty and expense of a child having contact with a parent and whether that difficulty or expense will substantially affect the child’s right to maintain personal relations and direct contact with both parents on a regular basis;

k. The range of powers available to the court under this Ordinance in the proceedings in question.

l. Any other fact or circumstance that the court thinks is relevant.

80.  With these principles in mind, I shall proceed to apply them to the case at hand.

Discussion

My impression of the parties

81.  I am convinced that both H and W are loving parents to their Children. It is also apparent that T’s condition has increased the challenges to their on-going co-parenting after the divorce, especially when there were disagreement on T’s care and treatment.

82.  What is also clear to me that in consideration of the parties’ submissions in this Relocation Application, that I must look into each’s capacity and ability to provide for the Children’s needs and on a longer-term basis, in particular for T.

Issues

83.  I will follow the list of issues guided by the above caselaw.

Is the application genuine and not motivated by W’s desire to exclude H from the Children’s life

84.  H’s motivation for better environment and opportunities for the Children to grow up is one of his reasons for this Relocation Application. He also wishes to move to Sydney Australia as this is where his new wife now lives. H’s intention is well documented in his supporting affidavits, and also recapped in the SIRs and the ISIR.

85.  I remind myself this Application was made about the time D left to return to Australia, and before T’s incident in August 2022. But T’s condition has given this Court more factors to consider in this application.

86.  The parties’ current access arrangement has been on-going for a long time on a week on-week off arrangement. The only break to that arrangement was when T refused to stay with his mother from February 2022 until his departure for the trip to Australia in July 2022. This break arose from the relationship between T and W, and not so much to do with any obstructions on H’s part. During these months, C continued with the pre-existing access arrangement with both parents.

87.  Looking at the H’s access proposals in the event relocation is granted, he has offered W to see the Children over their holidays four times a year, to the effect that she has 2/3 of the Children’s school holidays. He has also filed an undertaking with the Court dated 7 July 2023 that he will pay for the Children’s return trip to Hong Kong to see their mother 4 times a year. Should T be unable to travel, he has also proposed to pay for W return tickets to visit T in Australia 4 times a year.

88.  W complains that she won’t be able to see the Children, I disagree. When asked in court as to her working hours, she said that she is able to work with flexibility and there is no need to be attending office so long as she works 7.5 hours a day. She also said that during the week on-week off access arrangement, she could work around the Children’s schedule and work from home e.g. when C was at school, or after the Children go to bed.

89.  Given H’s proposal for W’s access which takes away some financial concern, and her ability to work remotely, I am of the view that her access to the children will not be obstructed. There is no evidence before me that it is the H’s intention to oust W from the Children’s life.

Is the application realistic and found on proposals well researched and investigated

Accommodation

90.  H’s current wife D has purchased a 4-bedroom home in Sydney and this is where H and the Children will reside initially. It is the couple’s plan to rent a 5-bedroom at such time when the 4 bedrooms are found to be insufficient.

Schools

91.  H has researched into schools for the Children.

92.  Understandably, options for T have changed. H has since looked for schools for T which cater to his special needs. He says he especially seek out schools to ensure that T would not be put in a situation where he might be bullied, both private schools and public schools have been explored.

93.  In the School Choices Report filed by H dated 8 May 2023. The two private schools in Australia were recommended by Dr H, T’s psychiatrist in Hong Kong; both these schools cater to various special needs for students. Should T recover well enough to join mainstream schools, the public / government schools available to T are also documented in the H’s affidavit and in the ISIR report, and provide for children with special needs.

94.  H has also submitted that Technical and Further Education (TAFE) NSW in Australia provides education and training to school leavers including those with special needs, and is also an available resource to T.

95.  When asked about the admission situation to the two private schools, H explains that T has gone through the first level of assessment but both schools require the Wechsler assessment which have not yet been done due to T’s relapse in Hong Kong and his admission to QMH.

96.  Given T’s condition, his education plans is being put on hold pending stabilization of or recovery from his condition.

97.  As for C, she has been accepted into P Ladies College, and a place is held for her at this moment. The ISIR assessor opines this school to be a good choice for C:

“The College offers a world-class learning environment that provides opportunities for excellence in academic studies, sports and the arts, a comprehensive curriculum with outstanding facilities and a nurturing pastoral care program that recognises and develops each girl’s unique strengths and qualities.”

Medical and Health Care Support

98.  Given T’s condition, this is an important topic to cover.

99.  H says that both D and he will be able to work from home to take care of the Children in Sydney.

100.  ISIR reveals that the Children living in Australia will have access to a universal health system which provides free hospital treatment and free access to general practitioners. H will also have access to support groups for T’s condition.

101.  H covered this topic quite extensively in his evidence:

a. T had access to “rapid and quality” care at the B Unit once he was assessed with a psychotic episode. He had a team of specialists, teachers, private room and outdoor space, and provision of regular updates with the personnel there on his progress. Should T have another regression episode, he will have quick access back to B Unit which has his medical history.

b. If and when T recovers from acute treatment, he can be managed by the Early Psychosis Intervention Service (“EPIS”) team in Sydney. According to the latest SIR, this service is a general care for adolescents up to the age of 25, and is a “specialised psychosis service, served with a multidisciplinary team such as psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers and occupational therapists.”

c. B Unit has also introduced the Walker Adolescent Unit Concord Centre, which is a long stay unit for young people aged 12-18 years of age who have complex mental illness problems. The Walker Centre has a school operating within to provide school learning support to adolescents.

102.  H also submits that healthcare would be substantially more affordable in Australia than in Hong Kong. As T is a NZ citizen and an Australian Medicare Card holder, his treatment at B Unit, EPIS or Walker will be free. H plans to integrate public resources and private services to ensure T has the best of care.

103.  Furthermore, H submits that the medical care in Australia is more affordable; this is important because there is a limit to what his medical insurance covers; and evidence shows that the W’s health care plan has a cap for mental health condition for herself and her two dependents at USD10,000.

Stepmother Support

104.  H submits that D has confirmed her ability to provide support for the Children, that she has the experience in connecting with therapists who has previously assisted her in her own daughter’s situation. She is mindful of the Children’s needs to maintain their relationship with W, and spoke to how she had helped both T and C when they approached her when they were unhappy.

105.  D came across as sensible and down to earth. I am of the view that she handled the cross examination well. She is grounded in accepting the upcoming challenges of supporting H, helping the Children through the transition of moving to Australia, and integrating them with her own children. She also said that the Children are known to her as they had lived together, and C had turned to her for emotional support at times.

106.  The ISIR also speaks positively to the partnership between H and D, quoted at paragraph 68 above. I accept her evidence and am confident that she will provide the requisite care to the Children, keep them safe, and will provide W with information of the Children’s development.

Is the W’s opposition motivated by genuine concern for the future of the Children’s welfare or is it driven by some ulterior motive

107.  I am of the view that W genuinely believes that T will fare better in her care. This is more apparent to me when she says that she is ready to consent to C moving to Australia with H. This also indicates that she does not query H’s (and D’s) ability to care for the Children in general.

108.  I am of the view that there is no ulterior motive on W’s part in her opposition to the Relocation Application.

Will the granting of the Relocation Application be detrimental to the W and her future relationship with the Children

109.  H has offered very generous access to W. On my request, he filed an undertaking to the Court after the Hearing which reflects his proposals with regard to financing return flights for W and the Children.

110.  He offers the to pay for the Children’s visits to Hong Kong, 4 times a year. And should T not be able to visit Hong Kong, H will pay for W to fly in Australia to visit T in Australia.

111.  H welcomes W to pay the Children ad hoc visits, and generous remote access with no restrictions. After all, at their age, there should not be any issue in W contacting them directly as and when she wants.

112.  The offer on share of holidays is 2/3 of the holiday time to her, which is generous and clearly proposed with a view to allowing her more time with the Children, as they are not with her during term time.

113.  In her oral evidence, she says she can work remotely for her work, which will give her a lot of flexibility to visit the Children.

114.  There is no complaint nor evidence of obstruction of access before me.

115.  I am therefore of the view that the relocation will not be detrimental to the relationship between them.

To what extent would that detriment be offset by extension of the child’s relationship with the paternal family

116.  H’s family is in Sydney and New Zealand. Living in Australia will give the Children close proximity to them. The Children are keenly aware of and happy with this.

117.  Furthermore, as the Children will be travelling to Hong Kong regularly, their contact with the maternal side of the family should not be compromised either.

What would be the impact on H on the refusal of his realistic proposal?

118.  This is always an important issue to consider as the well-being of the carer is of great importance to his ability to take good care of the children. H has said that should relocation not be approved, he will remain in Hong Kong, which will negatively impact his relationship with D.

119.  I feel that for H to remain here without D will give him a lot of stress and burden, as he will be without the support of someone who has stood by him in the past year of challenges. He will also have to face upcoming times by himself, while needing to maintain the on-going communication with W despite their divergence of views. The SWO makes the following observation in her last report:

“… the parents inevitably experience ongoing communication difficulties and soon held disputes regarding T’s care.”

120.  I am therefore of the view that a refusal to the H’s Relocation Application with have a negative knock-on effect on the Children.

Other factors to consider

121.  Having the Welfare Checklist in mind, there are several additional factors to be weighed in this decision, I will begin with the scenario in which the Relocation Application is denied.

Care and Control

122.  H says he will stay in Hong Kong, so the shared care and control arrangement will be as status quo.

Schooling in Hong Kong

123.  However, by the Schooling Report prepared by Dr H and filed by F, T cannot return to his existing school. With his condition, he cannot return to mainstream schooling. Neither is the JCSR School feasible, which is a special school that provides an English curriculum. There are also no other schools which can take T in with his condition. In short, there is just no schooling option in the horizon for T if he stays in Hong Kong.

124.  W put forward some choices of schools in Hong Kong, which is the Aspire Program from the Autistic Partners in Hong Kong. According to the SIR, this is an “international agency that provides progressive Applied Behaviours Analysis services for young people suffering from Autism Spectrum Disorders”. I see nothing in evidence that Aspire Program has anything to do with people suffering from psychosis.

125.  Further H has contended that he cannot afford for T to attend Aspire Program as this will cost $27,000 per month. W argues that this is a mere few thousand dollars compared to what H has been paying for. At the Hearing, W produces her breakdown of the amount she thought H pays for T’s school fees. According to her, this comes up to around $18,000 plus an estimate of $5,000 for ECAs. This was successfully challenged by H in her cross examination, she eventually accepts that the amount H pays for T is only $15,011 per month, which is much less than Aspire’s school fees at $27,000. I accept that H’s submission that the Aspire Program’s costs is much more expensive than what he used to pay. And more importantly, there is no clarity on how long T could be in the Aspire program, therefore H says the costs at Aspire Program will keep running indefinitely.

126.  W then went on to say that after the Aspire program, T can be enrolled into ITS Tutorial School. The SIR says that “The ITS provides private tutor services in English for a comprehensive range of tertiary, secondary and primary school subjects for Hong Kong Students. ITS also specializes in individual or small group tuition for students.” W says this is customized and suitable for T. It came to light at cross examination that ITS is but a tutorial institution and not a school; and no evidence that it caters for special needs students.

127.  When asked about post-secondary school plans, W mentioned a vocational centre in Sai Wan. This is new information and was never put forward by W as to what this is and how this is suitable for T.

Medical Care in Hong Kong

128.  When asked about T’s treatment plans in Hong Kong, H’s affidavit states that T will either be institutionalized; or in the alternative, just released back to the community.

129.  During cross examination, W did acknowledge that waiting time for T’s treatment in the Hong Kong public system will be long. When asked about what in-patient care will be available, W said that T would for sure be released. This came as a surprise, as this is the first time that this news came out at the Hearing, and certainly no evidence has been produced on this possible development. When asked what are the long-term care plans for T in Hong Kong, W says she would defer to the Dr H at QMH, and she quotes from her that Tai Lam Hospital (she probably means Siu Lam Hospital) and Castle Peak Hospital are options. Again, all new information and not heard of at all in these proceedings.

130.  Recalling what the SWO says in her contact with Dr H, the doctor told the SWO that she has no concrete plans for T, but only that she is waiting for this court’s decision on relocation.

Issues raised by H in his Cross Examination of W

131.  It is H’s case that W seems to have missed a number of “cues” from T’s behaviour after his return from Australia in February 2023 during the three alternating weeks when T was in her care, which should have caused her alarm. These are listed out in paragraphs 29 above.

132.  H reiterates in his closing submission that the parties have been told that there will be potential long-term impact if T’s condition is not quickly dealt with. They have also been well advised by B Unit of the critical importance of immediate care and treatment, he says M displays a reluctance in acknowledging T’s regression and the need for urgent medical attention. I agree that this came across in her cross examination.

133.  Furthermore, when H asked W about the medication that T is taking, she appears confused as to which medication deals with what condition. I find this alarming.

134.  H also takes issue in his cross examination of W’s position in allowing C to go with her father to Australia without T. This means that the siblings will be split up in two countries. H questioned how that could possibly be in the interest of the Children. I have to agree, as it can be seen from the reports that the siblings are close and it is important that C is around to visit T and to keep his spirits up and he likes the attention.

Points raised by W in her Closing Submission

135.  I disagree with W in that when T expressed his wishes for the Court to decide on relocation for him that it is a “tacit way of showing his change of preference without upsetting the parties.” In this regard, I have accepted abovementioned SWO’s observations and Dr H’s comment on T’s condition.

136.  W has commented on D’s suitability as a carer. She places emphasis on the way D reacted during the August 2022 incident. She interpreted D’s query to T about his wish to return to Hong Kong then as “the irresistible inference” that D agreed T would be better cared for in Hong Kong by W. I do not agree with this interpretation. T’s behaviour in August 2022 is so out of character that it must have taken H and D by surprise. How they responded to it then was probably reactive as they were not aware that T was suffering from a psychotic episode. I do not think it appropriate for W to comment on D’s suitability based on that incident.

137.  W also commented on the fact that D only visited T three times while he was hospitalized at B Unit. D explained that this was because H visits him daily and leave C in her care. W says that “It is clear that [D] felt she is unable to and should not be expected to take care of both Children.” I do not agree with W’s interpretation. Not do I agree with her comments that: [D] “fails to provide sufficient support and undermines H’s proper parental care and support which T may perceivably receive in Australia.”

138.  I do not find any arguments in her closing submission persuasive nor assist me in the determination of this application. Some of these arguments, include complaining about H’s unawareness of T’s special needs from 2014; or that T has regressed further in Australia when H “left T on his own” and travel to Hong Kong to see C for Christmas; or that H was prone to changing the Children’s schedule citing a 2022 holiday access as example and the fact that the Children return from the August 2022 was delayed due to H contracting covid. Her arguments on the affordability and standard of healthcare are not accepted.

139.  She then opines that there is no basis to assume T requires long term inpatient care, that T was stabilized and that there was no further discussion of long-term care plan as parents are awaiting T’s discharge. This assumption is also concerning, and she has not put forward any evidence on T’s prognosis.

Wishes of the Children

140.  In the earlier SIRs, both Children have expressed that they want to relocate to Australia.

141.  In the most recent report, C remains consistent; her wishes are best reflected in the SIR:

“54. C expressed a strong desire to study in Australia and enroll at P College, a local Sydney school. She was pleased with her life in Hong Kong, but believed she would be happier in Australia. Since returning to Hong Kong, she has maintained regular online communication with [D] and her children …. She did not express any concerns regarding her ability to tune in to the life in Australia. If granted relocation, she would miss Hong Kong, particularly her best friend in West Island School, her mother, Ms J and the dogs. In her family portrait, C drew the faces of her father (in the middle of the two faces), mother, and stepmother at equal size and level. Verbal, facial expression, and interactional data indicated that C had decided to relocate to Australia; her cautious disclosures indicated such determination was not easy when it also meant separation with her significant others.”

142.  The 3rd SIR has this to say of T’s wishes:

“He disclosed to the Investigation Officer that he had previously considered continuing his education in Australia but at this point he was unable to choose his future. … Consequently, he desired the Court to decide for him.”

…

“At the end of the interview, he was asked again if he would follow the Court’s relocation decision by then. He was unable to confirm because his reply was preoccupied with “poking his eyes””.

143.  When Ms C was crossed examined by W, she asked her whether T has retracted from his position of wanting to go to Australia, Ms C explained that T’s position is that he couldn’t make the decision himself.

144.  When the SWO spoke to Dr H at QMH, she said that “T showed a pattern of anxiety about his future that was reflective of his disorganised way of thinking, and it was important to understand the stress and insecurity he felt.”

145.  I make a decision to take both Children’s wishes into account, in particular that of T’s prior to his first episode psychosis.

Holistic assessment of what is in the best interest of the Children: the Balancing Exercise

146.  I am of the view that the best interest of the Children is served by their relocation to Australia.

147.  With regard to C, H in his closing submission says that W has not challenged his plans for schooling, medical support, and provision for psychologist; he also says that C’s wishes should carry significant weight. I agree. W has given specific consent to C’s relocation with H.

148.  I am also of the view that H has done thorough research for T’s schooling, and is conscious of the various options that are open to T at differing stages of recovery. In contrast, W’s choices of schooling options are not schools, H challenges her research are not thorough and I agree.

149.  In view of medical support, H says there are disparities in services in Hong Kong and Australia in terms of acute inpatient medical care services, outpatient support, and long term inpatient mental health options. I agree with H that the W’s case in terms of research and information are insufficient and unclear. H raises the issue of finances, and I also agree that the subsidies available to T in Australia are well resourced, as H can rely on the free public sector services, and focus his finances to support T with supplemental private services when needed.

150.  It appears to me that the support available to T in Hong Kong pales in comparison in terms of options, scope, depth, flexibility, waiting time and costs to what are available in Australia.

151.  Having looked at the respective parties’ case, the various reports, taking into account the Children’s wishes, and balancing all relevant factors; it is clear to me that this Relocation Application is to be granted.

Timing

152.  What has caused me concern is the parties’ and the SWO evidence that Dr H at QMH is waiting for this decision before informing the parents of next steps.

153.  Echoing the 3rd SIR, T’s mental health condition and his treatment needs are imminent; I therefore grant leave that the Children are to relocate to Australia at the earliest possible time. This is to enable T to commence treatment and rehabilitation soonest. I have reminded myself of what H had to do to prepare T for getting on a flight to return to Hong Kong back in February 2023, he had to take T out of B Unit on a progressive basis for T to adjust. No doubt both parents need to work closely with QMH and T’s various doctors to prepare him for his trip to Australia and what is to happen in between.

154.  I also believe the sooner T is aware of this move, the better, as it should settle his mind instead of the uncertainties he is now facing.

W’s ask for Maintenance

155.  I shall not be making any Order for maintenance for the Children. H will be bearing all the costs of living for them while in Australia. W has earning capacity and will be spending limited time with the Children and only during holidays; there is no reason why she cannot bear the costs of the Children when they spend their holidays with her, especially as air tickets will be provided for by H.

Orders

156.  Leave is granted for the Petitioner to remove both Children to Sydney, Australia with immediate effect. They are to leave as soon as practicable.

157.  The Order of HHJ Melloy dated 4 December 2014 is hereby varied to grant care and control of the Children to H, with reasonable access to W.

158.  There shall be no Order as to Costs. This is a costs order nisi to be made absolute from 14 days hereof.

  

  

 (Thelma Kwan)
 District Judge

  

Petitioner: Acting in person

Respondent: Acting in person

[2018] HKFC 167-EN-2018-10-03

PJM v. GPN

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FCMC 4999 / 2014

[2018] HKFC 167

IN THE DISTRICT COURT OF THE

HONG KONG SPECIAL ADMINISTRATIVE REGION

MATRIMONIAL CAUSES

NUMBER 4999 OF 2014

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BETWEEN
 PJMPetitioner
and
 GPNRespondent

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Coram: Her Honour Judge Sharon D. Melloy in Chambers (Not open to public)

Date of written submissions: 20 August 2018 (Paper disposal)

Date of Ruling: 3 October 2018

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RULING
(Costs in children’s trial)

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Introduction

1.  This application arises out of my judgment on the arrangements for the children of the family dated the 2 May 2018. In my Conclusions and order I said as follows:

44. Consequently I shall make an order as follows:

i) The Petitioner father’s summons dated the 3 November 2016 and the Respondent mother’s summons dated the 17 November 2017 shall both be dismissed. Order 1 contained in the court order dated the 4 December 2014 shall be varied to the extent that there shall be an order for shared care with the children splitting their time between the two households on week on/week off basis during term time as they do at present. There shall be no alteration to the arrangements for the school holidays and single public holidays.

It is further directed that:

ii) Both parties shall appoint a parental co ordinator. The parties may consider approaching the Beam of Hope Project in that respect.

iii) Both parties shall take all written medical reports to all medical and therapeutic consultations.

iv) Both parties shall only refer to T having a condition that he has actually been diagnosed with, currently Attention Deficit/ Hyperactivity Disorder combined presentation, Severe and Social (Pragmatic) Communication Disorder.

v) Neither party shall engage medical professionals for the children including those providing therapeutic support for them, without informing the otherside and seeking their consent.

Costs

45. Although this is a very high conflict case there is nothing here which takes it out of the realms of the ordinary in so far as costs are concerned. The mother has indicated that she wishes to seek her costs. However, in the first instance I will make an order nisi to be made absolute in 14 days’ time that there be no order as to costs. If either party wishes to challenge this, then they will need to take out the appropriate application. There shall be certificate for counsel and I thank him for his assistance in this matter.

Thus it is further ordered that   

vi) There shall be an order nisi to be made absolute in 14 days’ time that there be no order as to costs. There shall be certificate for counsel.  

The Respondent mother now seeks to challenge that costs order.

2.  By the time of the trial the parties had been locked in ongoing litigation and related disputes with respect to their two children for a considerable period of time. Communication between them was very difficult and there was very little if any mutual respect or trust. Thus although some of the outstanding issues at trial were relatively minor the parties were nevertheless unable to reach consensus.

3.  In general terms it could be said that I came down mainly in favour of the mother in that I agreed with her that the current shared care arrangement should continue. However, I accept that I did make further directions with respect to some of the other ongoing issues between the parties, as requested by the father. Some of those issues were compromised. On others I came down in favour of the father. For example, I specifically directed that both parties only refer to T having a condition that he has actually been diagnosed with – see the highlighted paragraph 1 (44) (iv) above. 

4.  Given that this was a children’s matter I decided at the end of the day to initially make the standard order in relation to costs. The mother seeks to vary that costs order and asks either that the father be ordered to pay her costs or that alternatively he contribute towards them and that the costs be taxed or summarily assessed with certificate for counsel. According to the documents produced the mother’s final discounted legal bill came to just over HK$300,000. 

The law

5.  The law on costs is not in dispute. It is accepted than in the normal course of events the court will make no order as to costs when the matter in issue relates to children. A costs order against one parent in a child related matter is considered unusual unless that parent has for example, been unreasonable in the conduct of the litigation. See Sutton London Borough Council v Davis (Costs) (No 2) [1994] 2 FLR 569.

6.  In S v S HCMP 5547/1999, Deputy High Court Judge Gill when summarizing the various cases then available on the subject elaborated on this point when he said as follows:  

From these authorities one can, I believe, summarize the following factors which might determine how a court should approach a contest on costs in a case involving a child or children:

1.   In general circumstances there should be no order for costs.  Parties who have a reasonable case to put forward going to a child’s welfare should not be dissuaded from doing so by threat of an adverse costs order if they do not succeed.  And in a child related case there should be no perceived winner or loser, save that it is the child who is the winner.

2.   If a party has by virtue of improper conduct attracted the proceedings which but for that may have been avoided then that might well warrant an adverse costs order.

3.   If in the course of the proceedings one party behaves unreasonably in his or her conduct of the litigation then that might be recognised in an adverse costs order.

4.  The financial circumstances of the parties and how an order for costs will impact on the parties is a factor for consideration.

5.  The general rule of not ordering costs should not deter a court from exercising its discretion to do so in circumstances it finds to be exceptional not necessarily limited to a particular category of cases.

The issue

7.  Unlike in other cases the issue here is not simply a matter of degree. Rather it is the mother’s case that given that she had no alternative but to seek legal assistance on this matter and that she was all along a reluctant participant in the process, that it is only fair and reasonable for the father to either pay for or to contribute towards her legal costs. It is of note that the father chose to represent himself throughout and thus he has no legal costs to speak of. Generally, as set out above, it is accepted that there should be no order as to costs in a dispute over children. As pointed out by the father in his submission, this is so that parents will not be discouraged from raising legitimate concerns which need to be properly ventilated and determined by the courts when considering the best interests of a child. However, there are exceptions to this general rule and the court’s discretion is in no way limited in this respect.      

Discussion

8.  In summary the mother said as follows in her written submission:

8.   Further as stated paragraph 14 and 15 of my affidavit catalogues some of the hostile steps taken by the Petitioner, including contempt proceedings as stated below six (6) other proceedings that the Petitioner has filed prior to this proceedings:

i.  Three (3) Contempt of Court proceedings dated Summons #1 dated 14 October 2015, Summons #2 dated 1 February 2016, Summons #3 dated 25 May 2016

ii.  Issued Summons for consent to remove children from the Jurisdiction and continued this proceedings even after I have given consent on 8th March 2016 and informed and reminded him that the hearing can be vacated due to consent being given (Summons dated 1 March 2016)

iii.  Forced me to seek a court order allowing the children to travel with me to attend my brother’s wedding, in circumstances where it was noted by the court that the petitioner should have simply granted such consent.  Respondent Summons dated 2 November 2015 (Consulted a solicitor to guide me with the requisite legal papers)

iv.  Finally, commenced these proceedings involving serious allegations, none of which he successfully proved. (Petitioner Summons dated 3 November 2016)

9.   In Summary, my filed affidavit dated 16 May 2018 enumerates seven (7) grounds for your honour’s consideration:

i.   The Petitioner made a number of serious allegations against me, none of which either the social worker or the Honourable Court accepted

ii. The Petitioner failed to obtain the relief he sought

iii.  The court made no adverse findings against me

iv.  Prior to the trial, the Petitioner rejected 2 reasonable settlement offers (please refer to paragraph 7 -12 of Respondent affidavit dated 16 May 2018 in support of this (“Application”) including relevant exhibit attached in the Evidence.

v.   Defending the proceedings caused me significant financial hardship, the severity of the allegations made by the Petitioner and the prospect of having shared care and control stripped away if left uncontested, left me with no option but to seek legal support from solicitor and counsel who (as the court will be well aware) charged very reasonable rates by Hong Kong standards, but still at very considerable financial cost to me on my income.

vi.  The oppressive nature of actions of the petitioner since the inception of the divorce proceedings as enumerated on paragraph 4, with the relevant dates these Summons were issued.

vii. Finally it must be in the best interest of the children that further court proceedings for trivial matters should have been mediated do not again end up in lengthy court proceedings. And only those claims which are legitimately require the intervention of the court should be bought before the court.

I largely accept what she says. In particular, I accept that funding the litigation costs would have been extremely difficult for her, given her limited income. Although the father is responsible for more of the children’s direct costs, nevertheless he has a much higher disposable income than that of the mother.

9.  As I understand it the judgments that provide us with precedent when considering costs orders in relation to children matters, were made on the premise that both parties were legally represented throughout. I am not aware of any reported decision where that is not the case. The ethos behind the no order as to costs principle is that both parties should be responsible for their own legal costs regardless of the outcome of the litigation. Thus neither party should be afraid of having a costs order made against them when raising a legitimate concern about their children. Generally speaking, if an adverse costs order is made against one party then they would be responsible for both their own legal costs and a portion of the other side’s costs. Such an order could be very significant from a financial perspective and could have very serious ramifications. The hope is that the no order principle would mean that this significant side effect of most litigation would be more limited where the dispute is about children. This does not apply however where one party is legally represented and the other is not. In such a case there is clear inequality from the start. In this instance the mother has been left with a crippling debt, whereas the father has not.

Conclusion

10.  In general I accept that the mother was perfectly within her rights to instruct solicitors and counsel to represent her. The allegations made by the father against her were serious and she was rightly concerned that she should not be disadvantaged in any way by the process, which she clearly found difficult. I also accept that she tried to settle matters with the father and that she has been the more successful party overall. I also note that she tried to mitigate her loss, so to speak, and that on occasions she did represent herself in court, but that she felt unable to do so at trial.

11.  Given that the mother has significant legal costs and seemingly the father has none, it seems to me that it would only be fair and reasonable for each party to be responsible for 50% of the mother’s party and party costs. There shall be certificate for counsel.

12.  Thus I shall make an order as follows:

The costs order nisi made by myself on the 2 May 2018 shall be varied so that the Petitioner do pay 50% of the Respondent’s costs, such costs to be taxed on a party and party basis if not agreed. There shall be certificate for counsel.     

13.  In so far as the costs of this summons are concerned I can see no reason why the costs shall not follow the event in the normal way. Consequently, the father shall pay the mother the costs of and arising out of her summons dated the 16 May 2018, such costs to also be taxed on a party and party basis if not agreed. 

   

 (Sharon D. MELLOY)
 District Judge

The Petitioner father represented himself

The Respondent mother represented herself

[2018] HKFC 65-EN-2018-05-02

PJM v. GPN

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FCMC 4999 / 2014

[2018] HKFC 65

IN THE DISTRICT COURT OF THE

HONG KONG SPECIAL ADMINISTRATIVE REGION

MATRIMONIAL CAUSES

NUMBER 4999 OF 2014

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BETWEEN
 PJMPetitioner
and
 GPNRespondent

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Coram: Her Honour Judge Sharon D. Melloy in Chambers (Not open to public)

Date of Hearing: 23 and 24 January 2018

Date of written closing submissions: 7 and 9 February 2018

Date of written replies: 14 February 2018 (none received – letters confirming the same dated the 20 and 27 February 2018)

Date of Judgment: 2 May 2018

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J U D G M E N T
(Sole/joint care and control/shared care, the appropriate split of time during term time and other directions)

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Introduction

1.  This trial was set down in order to determine cross applications with respect to the day to day care arrangements for the two children of the family, T, a boy who is now aged 11 having been born on the XX March 2007 and C, his sister who was born on the XX October 2010 and is now aged 7. Custody is not in dispute, notwithstanding the fact that some of the disagreements between the parties appear to be in relation to custodial as opposed to daily care issues. The parties currently have joint custody. Thus the main issue between the parties, from a courts perspective, relate to the day to day care of the children. The court is asked to consider whether the current arrangements or the status quo of the children should be maintained or alternatively whether or not a different arrangement should be put in place and if so what that arrangement should be? Other directions are also sought with respect to the care of the children going forward.

2.  As will be seen the proposals put forward by each side are entirely reasonable and although T has some challenges, it would seem that both children are currently doing well.

3.  T has special needs and related learning issues. Although there has been much debate about his “diagnosis” there is no doubt that he will need ongoing and fairly intensive support. The parties are agreed that he should attend ABC school from September of this year.  

Background

4.  The parties met in Hong Kong in around 2005/06 when the father was seconded to Hong Kong from the United Kingdom, which is where he was then working. The mother is Filipino but she has residency in Hong Kong, whereas the father was born and grew up in New Zealand. He is of British heritage. The eldest child of the family T was born on the XX March 2007. The pregnancy was unplanned, but not withstanding that the father, who had left Hong Kong at the end of his secondment, nevertheless returned to the territory in order to take up his responsibilities as a father. The parties subsequently married on the XX November 2007. Their second child C was born on the XX October 2010.

5.  Unfortunately, unhappy differences arose between the couple and the father issued divorce proceedings on the 17 April 2014. The parties were able to reach some agreements in mediation and a consent summons in relation to the children was filed on the 4 December 2014. The parties agreed joint custody and joint care and control and initially the children’s time was split more or less equally into two or three day tranches at any given time. In August 2015 the parties agreed to vary this arrangement so that the children spent time with each of their parents on a week on/week off basis with the handover being on Friday’s at 5:30pm. The parties also came to terms in relation to their finances following the Financial Dispute Resolution process. The order in that respect is dated the 2 April 2015.

6.  Both parties are now working full time and they each have their own domestic helper. Originally the parties shared a helper, but this proved untenable in the longer term. The mother has since employed a distant relative as her own helper. Thus each party relies on their own helpers for appropriate support during the weeks that the children are in their care. In addition, the mother has the support of her immediate family, most of whom reside in Hong Kong and she sees her close family members, including a sister who lives in DEF with her own family, on a regular basis. The father’s wider family reside mainly in New Zealand.

7.  Unfortunately, as indicated above, T has special needs and some related learning issues; much of the conflict between the parties arises out of each parent’s approach to this. It is of note that the father accuses the mother of not supporting the children academically and with respect to T, of not supporting his therapeutic and medical needs fully. He also implies that T’s developmental issues may be the fault of the mother. In addition, he suggests that certain problems that T has at school from time to time, are as a direct result of the mother’s parenting style. He is particularly incensed by what he says is the mother’s insistence to medical professionals and others, that T is autistic or on the autistic spectrum, when there is no diagnosis of the same. He wishes to be wholly responsible for all of the children’s medical needs.

8.  The mother for her part says that this is all evidence of the father’s over controlling and condescending attitude towards her. She denies most, if not all of his allegations and maintains that the interests of the children are best served by them continuing to have a lot of contact with her preferably on a 50:50 basis. She is concerned that the father will make it difficult for her to parent the children if he is successful in his application.     

The law  

Custody, Care and control, joint care and control/shared care and access

9.  The law governing applications concerning children in Hong Kong can mainly be found in the Matrimonial Proceedings and Property Ordinance, Cap 192 and the Guardianship of Minors Ordinance, Cap 13.

10.   Section 19 Matrimonial Proceedings and Property Ordinance, Cap. 192 states that

(1) The court may make such order as it thinks fit for the custody and education of any child of the family who is under the age of 18-

(Amended 69 of 1997 s. 28)

(a) in any proceedings for divorce, nullity of marriage or judicial separation, before, by or after the final decree;

11.  The general principles governing such applications are set out in s.3 of the Guardianship of Minors Ordinance, Cap. 13, which says that:

GENERAL PRINCIPLES

(1)   In relation to the custody or upbringing of a minor, and in relation to the administration of any property belonging to or held in trust for a minor or the application of the income of any such property-

(a) in any proceedings before any court (whether or not a court as defined in section 2) the court -

(i)   shall regard the best interests of the minor as the first and paramount consideration and in having such regard shall give due consideration to -

(A)   the views of the minor if, having regard to the age and understanding of the minor and to the circumstances of the case, it is practicable to do so; and

(B)   any material information including any report of the Director of Social Welfare available to the court at the hearing;

12.  For the avoidance of doubt s. 48 C Matrimonial Causes Ordinance, Cap. 179 adds that

…… section 3 of the Guardianship of Minors Ordinance (Cap 13) (which provides that the welfare of the minor shall be the first and paramount consideration) shall apply in relation to any order for the custody care or supervision of a child which may be made under this Ordinance or the Matrimonial Proceedings and Property Ordinance (Cap 192).

13.  Case law has developed over time and the most authorative explanation of the terminology used in our courts can be found in the Court of Appeal decision in PD v KWW, Civil Appeal No 188 of 2008, 9 June 2010. Reference should be made to that judgment as necessary. 

14.   Given that the parties are agreed that they shall have joint custody I intend in this judgment to concentrate on the terms care and control and shared care. I touched upon this in SEB v ZX (Custody) [2007] HKFLR 165 and in SKP v Y, ITT (Legal Terminology to be Used in Relation to Children’s Arrangements) [2012] HKFLR 422. In the latter I said as follows when discussing the concept of joint care and control and shared care: 

  Joint care and control

   21.   Consequently, joint care and control denotes a situation where the parties are sharing the day to day practicalities of raising a child. It will normally mean that the child is spending significant periods of time with both parents in each of their homes, but not necessarily on a 50:50 basis. However, the time shared is likely to be more significant than in a standard custody/access type order and will probably mean that the child is spending at least 35% of his time based with each of his parents. One would expect that both parents are involved in the schooling and extracurricular activity schedule and it normally denotes a high level of co-operation between the parents. Consequently, one would normally expect an order for joint custody and joint care and control to be made by consent. In the language of the social scientists an order for joint custody and joint care and control would probably be reflective of a cooperative co-parenting scenario.

  So how does this compare with the concept of shared care?

   22.   The concept of shared care as an alternative to joint care and control has developed over time. I referred to this recently in a case that may be going on appeal and is presently unreported namely TAC v VDC nee VDM FCMC 16497 2010. In that case I referred to H v H (unreported, 6 September 2002, CACV 42 of 2002, where the Court of Appeal first upheld an order for shared care. This judgment has been referred to by counsel for the father in this hearing. What is interesting is that in that case an order was made for sole custody and shared care. This approach was then followed by myself in SEB v ZX (Custody) [2007] HKFLR 165 referred to above and more recently in RWS v KCC, FCMC 9661 of 2010 unreported. In each of these cases and for a variety of different reasons it was felt appropriate for the ultimate decision making power to vest in only one parent. Thus orders were made for sole custody. However, the court was anxious to ensure that the child/ren involved should continue to spend significant amounts of time with both parents in a way that was more reminiscent of a joint care and control order. In order to recognise this and the fact that the non-custodial parent continues to have a great deal of practical control in the child’s day to day life, the phrase shared care was coined. Again in social science terms this is perhaps more reflective of a parallel parenting regime i.e. where there is a very high level of conflict between the parents which makes cooperative co-parenting virtually impossible, but where it is in the child/rens best interests to spend significant periods of time with both parents. It would be normal in a situation like that to set out very clearly how the child/ren’s time is to be split between both parents. There is no order for access per se. I made such an order in RWS v KCC, FCMC 9661 of 2010 commenting as I did that:

I have given a great deal of thought to the appropriate order to be made in this case.  As I have said it is not possible for me to make a “parallel parenting” order as such.  However, I would like to make an order that supports the concept of parallel parenting.  Consequently, it seems to me that it would be more appropriate to make an order for shared care as opposed to a traditional order for care and control and access.  This will make no difference at all to the practical arrangements that I intend to put in place.  They would have been the same in either event.  However, the concept of shared care seems to me to echo that of parallel parenting and I would urge the parties to adopt that approach. … … I will therefore make an order for shared care, following the format of the order in H v H i.e. that the care of the children shall be shared between the parents as follows:

     Detailed arrangements were then set out accordingly.

15.  In this case then we are concerned with the appropriate arrangements to be put in place for the two children of the family and how that should be reflected in the terminology used in the court order. Although the parties started out with an order for joint custody and joint care and control, it is clear, given the deterioration in their post divorce relationship and the almost chronic level of mistrust that currently exists between them, that going forward it would be more appropriate for there to be either an order for joint custody and shared care or a more standard order for joint custody, care and control and defined access.     

Discussion

16.  I must now turn to consider the issues, the law and each party’s evidence as set out in their affidavits and as given by them orally during the hearing. I have also heard from the Social Welfare Officer – Ms L, who prepared the second report dated the 9 January 2018.

Each party’s open proposals

The father

17.  The father made the following open proposals prior to the trial:

FATHER’S PROPOSAL

6.   I am proposing a change in the Children’s access schedule over the school term. I propose that all other aspects of the Children’s current access schedule remaining unchanged.  The access schedule I propose for the Children over the school term is as follows:

a.   The Children will be in the care of their Mother from the end of school on Tuesday afternoon to 8:30pm.  Please note that his does not have to be Tuesday, I would be happy to vary the day if circumstances required it be varied.

b.   The Children will be in the care of their Mother every alternate weekend from the end of school on Friday to the start of school the following Monday.

c.   The Children will be in the care of their Mother for the intervening weekend from 10:30am on Sunday to 5:30pm on Sunday. (The father changed this to 8:30 am – 6:30 pm in his closing submission).

d.   Public holidays falling on a weekday during the school term will be shared equally by the parents on alternate days.

e.   The Children will be in the care of their Father at all other times during the school term.

f.   My proposed access schedule for the Children over the school term is also illustrated below:

7.   As a consequence of the ongoing issues with Ms. N [the mother] misleading medical professionals with her claims that T was diagnosed with autism in September 2010, when there is no evidence to support her claim that there was a diagnosis, and the fact that she has disregarded the opinion of medical professionals with regards to T assessment in September 2010, I propose the following in addition to the change in access schedule:

a.   Ms. N will not engage with medical professionals on behalf of the Children without consent of the Father or the Court.

b.   Ms. N will not attend consultations with medical professionals on behalf of the children if the Father is not present, without consent of the Father or the Court.

c.   In the event the Children require urgent medical attention while in Ms. N’s care she must notify the Father as soon as possible.

18.  In the father’s closing he argued that this proposal is still an example of joint care and control and that in reality he and the mother would still care for the children on a more or less 50:50 basis given that he would have limited time with them during the week and the mother would enjoy most of their leisure time over the weekends.

The mother

19.  The mother for her part set out her open proposals as follows:

THE RESPONDENT'S OPEN PROPOSALS

1.   The Respondent is willing to continue with joint care and control as per the recommendations of both Social Welfare Reports;

2.   In light of the most recent Social Welfare Report dated 10th January 2018, the Respondent also proposes maintaining the status quo in respect of access i.e. that the children share alternate weekends with each parent;

3.   As per the most recent Social Welfare Report dated 10th January 2018, the Respondent is willing to adopt the proposals to appoint a parenting co-ordinator;

4.   In summary, as the Respondent's proposals mirror both Social Welfare Reports in maintaining joint care and control, and adopting the alternate week structure as per the recommendations of the 2nd Social Welfare Report, her proposals are:

(a)  That both parties withdraw their respective applications for care and control; and

(b)  There be no order as to costs.

5.   In the event that the Petitioner insists on pursuing his application for care and control, the Respondent is of the view that as the matter of care and control has not been heard before the Court previously, that all options should be open to the Court and to the Respondent and in the circumstances, the Respondent will pursue her application for sole care and control and will seek her costs from the Petitioner.

20.  In her opening submissions she added as follows:

17. Thus on this clear understanding, M’s position is, and remains, straightforward.

18. Firstly, the status quo should continue. It is unnecessary to disturb current arrangements set out in court order that M has worked hard to maintain for over for 3 years. Notwithstanding her efforts have been set against a backdrop of regular and unwarranted complaints from F, in particular, regarding her ability to properly care for T and ensure his ongoing medical supervision.  M also notes, from the SIR dated 7th March 2017, that both T and C do not object to the current, alternating, care and control arrangements and are therefore supportive of the status quo.

19. That said, secondly, M has made clear to F that she would not oppose either

a)   the parties agree to modify the current arrangements to a two-weekly cycle, i.e. alternating residence every two weeks instead of the current weekly arrangement or,

b)   alternatively, to fully accept the recommendations of the SIRs dated 7th March 2017 and 9th January 2018 respectively that shared care and control arrangements be maintained, whilst leaving the current holiday arrangements unchanged.

c)   M would be happy to discuss other formulas that would support a shared care & control arrangement that maintained equal division as far as possible - by way of example, fairly recently in April last year, the court has considered a 2-2-5-5 arrangement in N ν N FCMC 5026/2015.

20. Therefore, and for the avoidance of doubt, M has made very clear to F that she had no wish for this matter to get to trial.  However, given the Petitioner is determined to seek sole care and control, then M takes the view that the whole question of ‘care and control’ and ‘access’ (which,to be fair to both parties, has never been decided by a trial hearing), is one that should be considered sui generis on the facts and looked at again from first principles regarding the best interests of the children.  On this basis M clearly wishes to have sole care and control assigned to her with generous, reasonable access to F.

The Social Welfare officer’s reports

21.  There have been two reports filed, the first dated the 7 March 2017 and the second updated report dated the 9 January 2018. I am largely concerned with the second report. Social Welfare Reports are generally regarded as the “ears and eyes of the court” and they provide a very valuable function in that respect. However, the recommendations made are not binding on the court. If the court does not agree with the recommendations made, then reasons should be given.

1st Social Welfare Report dated the 7 March 2017

22.  In the first report the Social Welfare Officer Ms E said as follows:

39. To sum up,T and C’s parents divorced when they were at very young ages.  Both of the parents love the children very much, and both of them are very eager to be involved in the upbringing of their children.  As such, they agreed for joint custody and joint care and control in the first place.  Both children are certain about the love from their parents, and they understand that their parents are separated.  They have adjusted to the pattern of shared care in a way that both of them expressed their opinion to keep staying with both parents alternatively.  Emotionally, they are attached to both parents, and they are emotionally secured in terms of their relationship with parents.

40. While the parent-child relationship is well-maintained, the relationship between the parents is not.  Both parties stated in the present social investigation that there was hard communication problem among them, and there was no trust among them.  Room for negotiation, discussion and compromise is very limited.  The problem. makes the co-parenting difficult, especially on taking care of T who has special needs.  Taking care of a child with special needs can be stressful for parents, and an agreement between parents on perceiving the problem. areas and deciding on the care plan is crucial.  Having different perception and idea would definitely worsen the parents’ relationship and is not beneficial to the child.  This application for variation of shared care and control seems to be the result of mistrust and different parenting style among the parents.  Nonetheless, they basically agree to keep the joint custody, which means that they have to be co-operative and communicate with each other in making important decisions for their children.  Because the children are still young) and the way is long, it is opined that the parents should seriously consider for an appointment for parental co-ordinator so as to improve their co-parenting.

41. Considering the present child care condition, the working hours of both parents and their capability for child caring, the parents and the children's view and wish, I recommend to maintain the shared care and control, but that the arrangement shall be changed that, the children shall be in the care Mr M, the Petitioner during school days from Monday after school to Friday morning when he drops the children at school, and the children shall be in the care of Madam N, the Respondent from Friday after school to Monday morning when she drops the children at school. The arrangement for school holidays remained unchanged.

23.  Ms E was not called to give evidence in court. The mother said that she was prepared to accept these recommendations. The father disagreed, as it would mean that he would never have any down time with the children. However, he seems to have taken them into account when making his open proposal and he says in his closing that it was unfortunate that Ms E was not called to give evidence as she clearly had good reasons for making the recommendation that she did. I tend to agree that this proposal would most likely not be in the children’s best interests as is stands given the disproportionate emphasis between week days and weekends. I also rather suspect that it would not “solve” the dispute over homework given that T in particular will be expected to do homework over the weekends once he begins senior school.   However, I do accept Ms E’s suggestion that the parties should consider appointing a Parental Co coordinator. Given the almost chronic level of conflict and lack of trust that exists between the parties, it seems to me that the appointment of a Parental Co coordinator could only be a good thing.

2nd Social Welfare Report dated the 9 January 2018

24.  The second Social Welfare Officer Ms L recommended that the current arrangement remain unchanged. In her report she stated as follows:

34. The present social investigation reveals that both Mr M and Madam N love T and C very much and have been trying their best to be good parents. Both of them have been doing their best to offer good care, education, living environment to the children, to cater the children’s various developmental needs especially the various treatments given to T and maintained an affectionate relationship with them.  Both of them are very eager to be involved in the upbringing of their children.  As such, they agreed for joint custody and joint care and control in the first place.  However, Mr M and Madam N hold different parenting style, different management style of day to day issue, different perspective on T’s diagnosis and distrustful attitude towards each other.  Mr M regards the diagnosis affects the related treatment and expectation given to T while Madam N regards that she concerns the treatments given to T more than the name of diagnosis of T.  If Mr M and Madam N, as the divorced parents, could recognize and appreciate each other's efforts and cooperate with each other with a positive attitude, this should have been a complementary match for the children so that they can still enjoy the love and care from both parents and get the best level of nurture.

35. Concerning the issue of the care and control, Mr M requests to have the children under his care in all school days, and the mother to have access to the children once in the midweek evening till 8:30pm and overnight access to the children on alternate Friday afterschool to Monday morning and every Sunday from 10:30am to 5:30pm. Madam N thought the present arrangement that is the children lived with the parents in alternate week is for the best interest of the children. Mr M explains that T will be promoted to secondary level and requires more input with higher expectation which T can actually achieve it.  He also has little trust on Madam N’s arrangement especially the medical issue of T.  Madam N believes that the children require the input from both parents and she worries about the children's adjustment to the great change on the care and control.  She later changes the proposal of sole care and control to her after the pre-trial review with rationale that she will have much difficulty to meet the children if sole care and control is granted to Mr M.  Both children are certain about the love from their parents. They have adjusted to the pattern of shared care in a way that both of them express their opinion to keep staying with both parents alternately.  They are emotionally attached to their parents. Mr M has moved to Western district that reduces the travelling time a lot.  Though the parents have different perspective on the diagnosis of T, they implement the present treatment plan of T including taking T to attend medical consultations, give medication and cooperate with the school.  With the support of both parents, T’s need is met and he makes progress in all aspects. Both parents are committed to support T continuously.  In this sense, both Mr M and Madam N are caring and dedicated parents even though they hold different perspectives on T’s diagnosis and different parenting style, I recommend to maintain the shared care and control and the arrangement for school holidays remained unchanged.

36. Taking care of a child with special needs can be stressful for parents, and an agreement between parents on perceiving the problem areas and deciding on the care plan is crucial.  Mr M and Madam N agree to have joint custody for making decisions for the children.  It shows that they recognize the importance of both parents’ input is beneficial to the children’s development.  To addressMr M’s concern on the diagnosis of T and the misleading issue to the medical professional, it is suggested that all written medical reports have to be brought by the parties whenever they attend medical appointments with the children.  It is hoped that both Mr M and Madam N would let go of their differences and seriously considering the appointment of parenting co-ordinator to work out the details of the day-to-day child care arrangement and the medical appointments of the children so as to reduce their dispute which will worsen the parents’ relationship and in turn does not beneficial to the children. 

25.  In the witness box Ms L also made some other valuable observations. She said that the father was a very tidy person and that he liked things arranged in a neat and tidy manner. She added that he was of the view that school instructions should be followed strictly, whereas the mother placed importance on other things in addition to the academics. She said that in her opinion, these were simply two parents who had very different parenting styles. She recommended that each should try to accommodate the other. She reiterated that the father was of the view that T could do better if he was under his care. For her part however she said that according to the school T appeared to be improving and that she was content for the shared care arrangement to continue. She said that in her view both parents were following the instructions from the school and that each provided appropriate support for T. As will be seen I largely accept the recommendations made by Ms L.    

The reports

26.  As indicated above a lot of the conflict between the parents’ centres on T, his diagnosis and the approach that each parent has taken to his special needs both in the past and going forward.

27.  There is no doubt that in the Psychological/Psycho- Educational Assessment of T in November 2014 T was diagnosed with Attention Deficit/ Hyperactivity Disorder combined presentation, Severe and Social (Pragmatic) Communication Disorder. T was 7 years and 7 months old when the assessment was conducted. Dr S, who undertook the assessment, also identified two core weaknesses, namely T’s difficulties with executive functioning and his difficulty with pragmatic social language. In discussing the latter, he said

2) T also has difficulties with language, in particular difficulties with pragmatic (social language).  He performed in the below average range on tasks assessing his receptive language, and his expressive language was towards the bottom of the average range. Moreover, T has trouble using communication for social purposes, has difficulties following the rules of conversations (such as taking turns, rephrasing when misunderstood, and recognising verbal and nonverbal signs to regulate interaction).  Finally,T has trouble making interferences and interprets language literally. Some of T’s behaviours could be associated with an Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), but it is felt that his executive functioning and pragmatic language difficulties are more of a prominent challenge for him and may not be caused by an underlying ASD. Having said that, T will still benefit from many of the strategies and recommendations typically prescribed to a child with ASD.

However, T was not actually diagnosed as being on the autistic spectrum.

28.  In earlier reports similar references can be found. In a report dated the 21 February 2011 from the D Hospital, the following Comments and Conclusions were reached:

Comments and Conclusions:

Assessment by the clinical psychologist was compatible with autistic disorder. He was noticed to have deficits in social interaction and qualitative impairment in communication.

T was only 3 ½ at that time.

29.  I have also been referred to two other reports including an Educational Psychology Report dated the 14 November 2016.  This also refers to Dr S’s diagnosis and makes a number of recommendations being strategies and suggestions that the parties might find helpful going forward. It also set out a number of challenges that T was facing at that time:

Summary of Consultation

T is a friendly, talkative boy and it was a pleasure to work with him. He has previously been identified as experiencing Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) and Social (Pragmatic) Communication Disorder.  T takes daily medication (Concerta).

The information gathered by the current assessment highlighted that T has strengths in a number of areas, including:

•   He has settled in to his Year 5 class.

•   He is developing his relationship with Year 5 staff.

•   He responds well to 1:1 support, prompts and encouragement.

•   With adult support, he may sometimes interact with other students.

•   T is particularly motivated by his special area of interest (transport).

•   His ability to analyse and synthesize abstract visual stimuli, as assessed by the Block Design subtest from the WISC-IVUK, was in the high average range for his age.

•   His short term memory and sequencing skills, as assessed by the Digit Span subtest from the WISC-IVUK, were in the high average range for his age.

The information gathered highlighted that T displayed greater challenges in the following areas:

•   His social thinking skills e.g. understanding others’ perspectives, ‘reading between the lines’ in social scenarios, wanting to follow his own agenda, not always picking up on clues from the environment to work out what he needs to do, demonstrating whole body listening.

•   His pragmatic language skills e.g. reading typical non-verbal cues, understanding verbal hints (implied messages), demonstrating expected turn-taking behaviour in conversations, making conversational transitions in an appropriate way, providing the right amount of information when responding to questions, speaking using an expected tone/volume of voice

•   His ability to regulate his emotions in a timely and expected manner e.g. becoming very excitable and finding it difficult to calm himself down as required by the situation, engaging in in lots of ‘silly’ or immature behaviours that are not typically associated with children of his age, displaying ‘emotional swings’ whereby he may suddenly begin laughing wildly, running around etc. (Note: Staff indicate that it is very challenging to support T to calm down and re-engage or move on from these episodes.)

•   His ability to manage and regulate sensory information.

•   His ability to maintain expected levels of attention as a result of the challenges outlines above.

•   His ability to access and engage in an age-appropriate curriculum.

As a result of the areas outlined above, T displays a high frequency of unexpected and often challenging behaviours.  His impulsivity and self-directed behaviours mean that he requires a high level of support to focus, engage and remain on task. T finds it hard to engage with his peers in an equal, meaningful manner and this impacts upon his social relationships as well as social aspects of learning such as group work and discussions.

Whilst the current assessment suggests that T is, cognitively speaking, within the low average to average range, it is likely that this reflects an underestimate of many of his skills given his impulsivity, self-directedness and variable levels of attention.

This report is 16 months old; T was 9 years and 8 months old when the report was made.

30.  It was put to the father during cross examination that he had never accepted that T had autistic features. He agreed and pointed out that this was because T had never been diagnosed with autism and that notwithstanding that the mother had nevertheless told people that he had been so diagnosed in 2010. He said that he could not rule out that happening in the future. He did not accept that Social (Pragmatic) Communication Disorder was part of the autism spectrum. It is of note that no medical evidence was produced for the court on that point and therefore it is not possible for me to take this any further.

31.  The mother for her part maintains that she is not so concerned with whether T is autistic or not. She just wishes to get the appropriate support for him regardless of any diagnosis.

32.  I have taken judicial notice of the fact that generally speaking children are not formally diagnosed at a young age with special needs like autism, because of all the issues that are clearly of so much concern to the father, including the fact that a child may be inappropriately labelled as having learning difficulties when that is not infact the case. However, I also have some sympathy with the mother here. T had been referred as possibly being on the autistic spectrum in the earliest report from the D Hospital, although clearly he was too young for any definitive diagnosis to have been reached at that time. Further reference is made by Dr S to autism in his report although he did not diagnosis him with the condition. As indicated above I am not in a position to state whether or not the Social (Pragmatic) Communication Disorder that T has been diagnosed with is on the autistic spectrum, or if it is connected to autism in some way, as has been suggested by counsel for the mother. In any event it seems to me that T clearly has special needs which need to be addressed in an appropriate manner, regardless of what he has or has not been formally diagnosed with.

33.  The Social Welfare Officer has suggested that both parents take copies of all the T’s reports to any medical or therapeutic appointments, so that there can be no misunderstanding in relation to this going forward. The father has rejected this as being impractical. I do not agree. It seems to me that this is a sensible approach and one that should be adopted by both parents. I do not accept that the father’s concerns in this respect are of such a magnitude that a change in the current arrangements is justified. I would suggest however that the mother refrain from referring to T as suffering from anything other than the conditions he has actually been diagnosed with i.e. Attention Deficit/ Hyperactivity Disorder combined presentation, Severe and Social (Pragmatic) Communication Disorder.     

How should the care of the children be split during term time?

34.  In addition to issues surrounding the diagnosis of T’s special needs, the father also maintains that there are issues related to homework support for the children by the mother and T’s additional therapeutic support. The father is also of the view that the children do better at school when they are in his care and he also complains about other minor things including T sharing the mother’s bed and her care of the children when they are ill.

Homework support

35.  Both parents work full time. Consequently, when the children are in the care of either the father or the mother, each party’s domestic helper is responsible for caring for the children between the end of school and when each of the parents returns home. I accept therefore that it is likely that the children will begin their homework before that time. Although the father probably has a more disciplined regime in place for this, I nevertheless accept that the children do their homework when they are with the mother and that she is clearly very well versed in what was required of them and what they each needed to do. Although she admitted that she tended to concentrate on other things apart from the guided reading and mental arithmetic, she nevertheless ensured that the homework was generally done.

Medical and therapeutic support

36.  The father maintains that the mother is uninvolved in T’s occupational therapy and other medical care including the monitoring of Ritalin, which he takes for his ADHD. The mother for her part points out that the father insists on being the parent who controls these matters. Historically the father was wholly responsible for the payment of T’s therapies and medical consultations etc. Therefore, he became the parent who was in charge of the arrangements for the medical appointments and ongoing therapies. I accept that to be the case. I also accept that it would be very hard for the mother to now try to take on a more proactive role in this respect as the father seems very invested in this side of the children’s care. I accept that the mother has simply tried to take the path of least resistance and to not inflame an already highly conflicted situation. I do not accept however that she has acted improperly when the children are ill or that she has tried to instruct medical professionals to the exclusion of the father. For the avoidance of doubt therefore I will further direct that neither party is to engage medical professionals without informing the otherside and seeking their consent to the same. In the event that either party objects or there is some other concern in this respect then reference should be made to a Parental Co coordinator in the first instance. Both parties should be given the opportunity to attend medical and therapeutic consultations. If either of the children requires urgent medical attention, then each parent is to inform the other as soon as possible.

Children’s performance at school

37.  In a very unsavoury part of the evidence the father relied on a number of e-mails from the school for the period from August 2015 – August 2016, which he said went to support his case that T did better when he was with him than when he was with the mother. Understandably perhaps he was cross examined extensively on this by Mr Hotten (counsel for the mother). I accept that it was clear from this that T had both good and bad days. It is not accepted that his behaviour was wholly good when with the father and wholly bad when with the mother or that he always had more successes when in the care of the father when compared with the weeks that he spent with the mother. It is also of note that this evidence was over two years old in any event.     

Other complaints

38.  The father raised other complaints, including the fact that T slept with his mother when in her care. The mother maintains that this was not a regular occurrence, but that sometimes T complained and wanted to sleep with both her and C. I accept that there is a cultural component to this and that the mother has a very small apartment in any event. Again this is a relatively minor issue and the mother agrees that T should sleep in his own bed going forward.     

The father and the mother in the witness box and generally

39.  When considering matters of this nature the court is charged with considering the character of both parties in the witness box. I should say at the outset that both parents struck me, and have during the course of the litigation, as being dedicated and loving parents who only want what is best for their children. They struggle however, in that they do not appear to have any form of functioning parenting relationship and they have not developed the necessary strategies in order to be able to deal with each other on a day to day basis. There also appears to be a lot of underlying emotional baggage that effects their ability to interact with each other. They are clearly both intelligent but have very different outlooks on life. I do not believe that the answer lies with changing the structure of the shared care/joint care and control regime. These problems will continue to surface regardless of that structure. Blaming each other also does not help.

The father

40.  The father presents as being a very detailed orientated person. He believes in following rules and regulations strictly. He is neat and well presented and I have no doubt that the Social Welfare’s observations of both him and his home are correct. I have no doubt at all that he provides the children with a well run and regulated home and that he is also loving and affectionate with him.     

The mother

41.  The mother presented as being more emotional. She has clearly been upset by this process and was visibly teary at times in the witness box. I have no doubt that her approach to parenting is somewhat different from that of the father. But she knew what each child needed to do homework wise and has clearly gone to great lengths to educate herself about different approaches to children with special needs. I accept that she always tries to act with the best interests of the children in mind and she has struggled with the father’s criticism of her. Again I have no doubt that the children are closely attached to her and that she is a good and loving mother to them. 

The different options

42.  I do not accept that the father has made out a case to vary the care and control of the children. I have considered whether or not the week on/week off arrangement is appropriate and whether in the alternative it might be better to impose a 2:2:5:5 regime as suggested by Mr Hotten for the mother in his opening proposal. An example of this is set out below:

  Mon Tues Wed Thurs Fri Sat Sun
1st Week M M F F M M M
2nd Week M M F F F F F

43.  This would mean that the children would spend every Monday and Tuesday with the mother and that they would also continue to alternate the weekends. In addition, the children would spend every Wednesday and Thursday with their father. The advantage of this proposal is that each parent would then be able to organise extracurricular activities or extra tuition or indeed other therapeutic support for T on a regular day each week when the child is in their respective care. The difficulty is that it means more changeovers in any given two-week cycle at time when T is due to begin senior school in the Autumn and he is going to be faced with many other challenges. It may also be more difficult for the mother to manage, as she has to travel more frequently than the father. In such circumstances and on reflection, I have decided not to interfere with the current week on/ week off arrangement. I have also considered the two week on/ two week off proposal suggested by the mother but I am concerned, given the relative young age of the children, that that would mean that they are away from the other parent for too lengthier a period of time.  

Conclusions and order

44.  Consequently I shall make an order as follows:

i)    The Petitioner father’s summons dated the 3 November 2016 and the Respondent mother’s summons dated the 17 November 2017 shall both be dismissed. Order 1 contained in the court order dated the 4 December 2014 shall be varied to the extent that there shall be an order for shared care with the children splitting their time between the two households on week on/week off basis during term time as they do at present. There shall be no alteration to the arrangements for the school holidays and single public holidays.

It is further directed that:

ii)   Both parties shall appoint a parental co ordinator. The parties may consider approaching the Beam of Hope Project in that respect.

iii)   Both parties shall take all written medical reports to all medical and therapeutic consultations.

iv)   Both parties shall only refer to T having a condition that he has actually been diagnosed with, currently Attention Deficit/ Hyperactivity Disorder combined presentation, Severe and Social (Pragmatic) Communication Disorder.

v)   Neither party shall engage medical professionals for the children including those providing therapeutic support for them, without informing the otherside and seeking their consent.

Costs

45.  Although this is a very high conflict case there is nothing here which takes it out of the realms of the ordinary in so far as costs are concerned. The mother has indicated that she wishes to seek her costs. However, in the first instance I will make an order nisi to be made absolute in 14 days’ time that there be no order as to costs. If either party wishes to challenge this, then they will need to take out the appropriate application. There shall be certificate for counsel and I thank him for his assistance in this matter.

Thus it is further ordered that:           

vi) There shall be an order nisi to be made absolute in 14 days’ time that there be no order as to costs. There shall be certificate for counsel.


 (Sharon D. MELLOY)
 District Judge

The Petitioner father appeared in person

Mr Keith Hotten instructed by Weir & Associates appeared for the Respondent mother